Readers Story: My Boyfriends Sleeping With My Best Friend
Dear Danni,
My boyfriend of 9 months, James has been sneaking around a lot recently and he’s become so secretive that having even a normal conversation with him really takes effort. I started noticing that James had changed around about a month ago when he started getting really busy and rarely had any time to see me. At first I gave him the benefit of the doubt and thought that maybe he genuinely was busy but after he bailed out on the third consecutive outing we had planned is when I really started to worry. I decided I wouldn’t bring the issue up with him straight away and I’d give him some space and use this as an opportunity to catch up with my girlfriends and my best friend Sarah who I’ve known since I was 12. Whenever James decided he was busy I’d call up Sarah and see if she was free to go out for dinner or even just catch up and she too always happened to be busy at the same time.
I didn’t think much of it at first until one day I started putting everything together in my head. How could it be that James and Sarah were always busy at the same time as each other? Unfortunately for Sarah whenever she told me that she was unable to catch up she would tell me the exact location of where she was going to be instead (if they happened to go out). One day I decided to trust my instincts and go to the place which Sarah had told me she would be and right enough I saw her there with James and she had her hands all over him. I was so shocked and hurt that I didn’t even bother to go over and confront them and now I don’t know how to confront either one of them about what I had seen just over a week ago. Can you please give me some advice on how I can bring this up and not seem like the stalker girlfriend who followed her boyfriend around?
Thanks,
Jessica
(Age 22)
ADVICE:
Well Jessica your story was really shocking, most women have that scary thought that their boyfriend may cheat on them but I guarantee you that most women never suspect it would be with their best friend. You’ve been with James for 9 months now like you said and it’s really hard for someone to know wether a 9 month relationship means more than a friendship which you’ve had for over 12 years. I think the best way to deal with this is to confront both James and Sarah together. Chances are they don’t suspect you know anything and you can arrange for her to come over one day when you know James will be there. The best way to do this is to say that you decided to go out to where sarah said she was and meet up with her as you hadn’t seen her in a while and that’s when you noticed that she was there with James and then give them the chance to explain what was going on. At the end of the day it’s really up to you to decide if your best friend of 12 years means more to you than your boyfriend of 9 months or the other way around and if you even want to keep either of them in your life.
I hope this advice helps you go in the right direction to making a decision and hope everything goes well for you.
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July 11th, 2009
Dear Jessica,in my opinion you should let them both go.A tru friend would’nt do such thing to you. A true husband would’nt sleep with your bestfriend.If they both had the nerve to do such thing to you than I don’t know how you would put up with the b.s.You seem like a great person that can find much better. And remember, it’s better to be alone than in bad accompany! I hope all goes well. Bye